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Yikes! My Child WON'T Share! What Do I Do?

Years ago my husband and I attended a they return
parenting them damaged, dirty or in poor working
class and one thing that stands out in condition.
my mind from Again, who wants to loan something to
that course was something very someone like
simplistic that the that? I suspect not you and I know, not
trainer said. He asked the question, me! So don't
"If your kid make your child do that with his items
doesn't like broccoli, what should you either!On the other hand, if you have a
do?"I thought for a minute while he friend that borrows
paused and the first things and returns them in a timely
thought that came to me was, do my kids manner, in the
even like condition in which you leant them, well
broccoli? Hmmmmm.Then in a loud voice then you are
the trainer enthusiastically more likely to "share" your things with
said, "You should feed him MORE this person,
broccoli, that's what!" right? Explain this concept to your
The reason this lesson stands out in my child using simple
mind so clearly words. Ask your child if he thinks the
years later is because I have used it playmate takes
over and over in good care of his or her toys. Talk to
making my parenting decisions. I have them and get
gone back and them thinking about it. If the playmate
pondered it again and again. Why? This is too rough,
one simple don't make your child share with him.The
concept has become a principle to me in next step is listening. TO YOURSELF!
my parenting After you have made yourself aware of
skills.If your child doesn't want to do the playmates
something, at times, behavior, the next thing is to use words
it is appropriate to make him do it. that children
Those of you that understand. When an adult uses the word
know me personally know that I strive to "share" in
allow my terms of food, the child sees you rip a
children to make decisions for cookie in half
themselves and at times and give some to someone else. Whoa!
they make wrong and unwise choices. The Next, you pick
goal is to up the child's doll and say, I want you
have them learn from those poor choices. to "share" your
I don't doll with your friend. Yikes! The kid
believe in forcing them to do things half expects you
such as eating all to rip the doll's arms off. Adults
of their dinner, wearing their hair a sometimes don't realize
certain way or the power of their words on a child.
perhaps wearing shoes they hate. You do Listen to yourself!What I would suggest
have to is for you to use the
balance things and encourage your word "share" only when you are dealing
children to grow with food
emotionally and behaviorally to become because that is really what you are
good citizens. asking your child to
You do that by exposing them and do, give a little of what they have to
influencing them to someone else.When you are dealing with
attempt new things that they may not toys and objects you might
want to do. In say, "Let's allow your friend have a
other words, there are always things in turn playing with
life that we your toy now, okay?". This is more
must do, even if we don't want to. We understandable to
have to go to the child and they will not envision you
work. We have to go to school. We have ripping their toy
to obey the in half.After saying everything just
laws of the land.Now, lets apply this to right, you may still find
getting your children to share that you have a child that won't share
with others. If you have a child that or take turns!
will not share their What then? Well, that is when I go back
toys and you indulge that behavior by to the
allowing it, well, phrase, "If they don't like broccoli,
subliminally, you are telling the child feed them more
that you agree broccoli!" In other words, MAKE them
with him and he really doesn't have to share. How can
share his toys. you make them? Simple, you can do this
Sharing is something that a child must by
be taught. saying, "You must take turns with your
There is a healthy way to teach your toys and if you
child to share and don't, mommy or daddy will take the toy
you might be surprised to know that I and put it
don't think you away from you until you decide to give
should always make your child share with others a turn
others. playing with it." I know, you are
There is a step-by-step process that you thinking, wow, that is
can follow to tough, right? Yup, anything that your
get your child to share.The first step child is so
is awareness.Are you aware of what is attached to that they won't allow anyone
going on with your child's else near it,
playmates? As the adult, make yourself is too much of an attachment. It is an
aware of what attitude of total
is going on when playmates come around. selfishness and you need to discourage
Listen to it.You don't need to torture the child
them playing. Your child may not want and keep
to share for threatening to take the toy. (Click the
fear of losing a favorite toy or for link in this
fear that his favorite newsletter to read about threatening
toy will get broken or scribbled on. Pay repeating). Just
attention and like the Nike commercial says. Just do
see if your child has a friend that is it! Do it very
too wild with toys logically and calmly after telling the
and often breaks them, or maybe a child ONE time only.
playmate tends If the child has a fit and asks where
to "accidentally" take things home with the toys is, explain
him and not to them that it is safe and that you
bring them back, or maybe they even have have put it away
a tendency until they were willing to allow others
to color on toys? If this is the case, a turn. Do not
then you give in, no matter what! When the child
shouldn't make your child share with a agrees to allow
playmate like others a turn, give the item back to
that! You may even encourage your child him. Empower
to put his your child with control of the timeframe
favorite toys up when that particular in which he
playmate comes gets the item back. Each child is
over. Or better yet, reevaluate who different and one child
your child is might decide to share immediately and
playing with!The next step would be to another child will
think of yourself. decide to take turns only after a
If you have an irresponsible friend that week.My final words to you are this,
borrows your remember, being a
lawn tools and leaves them out in the parent is challenging work! Stay focused
yard to get on your
ruined, you probably don't want to loan parenting plan, turn on the creative
him anything do portion of your
you? This is usually the same friend brain and then? OUTSMART THE LITTLE
that is constantly BOOGERS! It is
wanting to borrow many of your items, the only way!Michelle Shelton and her
probably husband Paul live in Gilbert, Arizona
because he ruined his own already, with their five children. Michelle is a
right? Perhaps you full time licensed Real Estate Agent for
have a friend or family member that Keller Williams Realty Southeast Valley.
doesn't return She specializes in Arizona Horse
things when they borrow them or maybe Property.




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